Barb, I can't imagine the last grandchild graduating college, since my youngest is only five years old, but there have been changes in how I shop for my six grandchildren. I decided a couple of years ago to give money and allow my oldest (21 yrs old) to shop and bring the things to me to wrap and I would buy her a couple unexpected gifts. When I have the annual sleepover/cookie bake with the other grandkids I have them go on the internet, place items they want in the shopping cart and once they leave in the morning, I would go back and choose which items to purchase for them. It works out perfectly because if it's clothes they choose the color, style and size, no returning things necessary after Christmas day. Now for the youngest two, who are five and eight years old, they too pick out what they want at Toys R Us online, they tell me which toys they want the most. I then choose, and also buy them pjs and a couple of outfits. For my adult kids, I send money in the mail to my daughter and son in law who live in Florida since shipping has gotten out of hand. For my two sons and their wives, they each send me a link to what they want and bingo!!! Although I always buy a meaningful family gift that each of our homes will have to signify family and faith. So easy, but I still stress out until everything is wrapped. Our family tradition is, on Christmas Eve we all meet at 5:30 p.m. Mass at our church, then go to my house where we eat, and then first the littles open up their gifts down in the family room, and then the adults open their gifts up in the living room. Everyone leaves to go home around 11:00 p.m. Christmas morning my hubby and I open our gifts to each other, then hurry and go to my son's house for Christmas breakfast and stockings. We play games and then go home to change out of our sweats or pjs, and then go to the other son's house for Christmas day dinner. This tradition will probably continue until someone decides we need a change. My hubby and I get over excited for decorating the outside, living room, kitchen, and downstairs family room. We usually begin decorating before Thanksgiving and leave it all up til New Year's Day. I absolutely love everything about the Christmas season!!! Maybe as you mentioned above is partly why I love this season so much...... "I just thought the concept of those of us who grew up in the religion having an almost poetic or artistic view on the world because of the traditions of the church a fascinating and heartwarming view point" It brings scripture to life, it gives meaning to scripture, and scripture is fulfilled. As the Holy family is complete, so too I feel my faith family is complete especially on this glorious day! Idyllic, as it seems, it's the fabric that keeps our family together.
I like the image of your table near the tree, and all of you eating breakfast and opening your gifts. It's whatever works for each family, but the most important thing is to share it with family! I've learned to accept changes in tradition, as long as we remain celebrating it as a family.