Joan P - I think Roger is so interested in Mrs A's house because it is a desirable property in a desirable English village. Until a few years ago - and presumably still when this book was being written - property like this was like gold dust. If the house went onto the open market, it would be snapped up by somebody prepared to pay a lot more than Roger can maybe afford. And perhaps he is also trying to buy back a piece of his childhood - which suggests that it must have been happy, as there is no way on God's earth that I would want to move back to the town that I grew up in.
You have a good point about stereotypying maybe being more common in a village. I have only lived in Edinburgh a week (and many people call Edinburgh "a village" in that everyone seems to know everyone else), but already I feel a sense of freedom that did not exist in Aberdeen. Aberdeen is not, of course, a village, but it is a very insular place. Everyone associated with the oil industry is seen as an "incomer" and never really assimilated. Edinburgh has a huge and transient population, and Anna & I have noticed, just through being out and about in the city, that there is so much more variety - people dress in all sorts of ways, some very unconventional (which I love), and no-one stares at them or makes remarks (as they would in Aberdeen). People have all sorts of lifestyles, and again, there seems to be much more of an air of acceptance. This may well all be our "honeymoon" period - we know so few people properly that things may change! - but even when we enrolled at the local pool, the attendants were more "open" and friendly - hard to describe, but Aberdonians tend to have this attitude that does not welcome strangers and sees southerners like me as namby pamby posh people. So far I just have not come across that here, and we have certainly not stuck to the tourist areas.
Is there an allotted quota of friends? I don't know. I think that if you move, you make new ones - my friends who have done so have managed to forge new social circles, even though they are the same age as me. I do think it is much easier to meet people when you have young children or are working, but it is not impossible when you are older/retired - there is so much to get involved in if you want to. Also, the people you meet at the school gates may in the end have very little in common with you apart from babies, whereas if you meet people later on, you may well meet them through involvement with something that interests you both. That said, I met my very best and closest friends when we had new babies at the same time. I wonder if some people do run out of steam for making new friends? My mother moved house in her 70s (which we did not think was a good idea, but we kept out of it as it is really none of our business) and she says she has never made friends where she now lives - BUT I am well aware that she makes no effort and positively fends people off. When I have visited her, I have found the neighbours, local church, etc to be very friendly.
MaryPage - I have to say it again - your writing is just wonderful. You really should write a novel (or maybe you already have?), your prose flows so beautifully, and is so moving and evocative. I feel that all of those people did know that you loved them.
Rosemary