Author Topic: Women's Issues (Read 392130 times)

maryz · « **Reply #1761 on:** December 07, 2014, 05:10:42 PM »

Great, Barb!

Steph · « **Reply #1762 on:** December 08, 2014, 09:05:47 AM »

Love it Barb.

MaryPage · « **Reply #1763 on:** December 20, 2014, 11:46:27 AM »

We made the last Santa Claus run to the post office yesterday afternoon. Chip got my miniature tree out for me and set it up and pulled down the branches, etc. I have the rest of the house decorated, and now have only the tree to do. It is fun playing Christmas CDs on the Bose and answering the door to UPS and FedEx and the postman, all delivering packages. I still feel a terrible pull to be back in Grandma's house in Stephens City, Virginia with Grandma and Marshall and Buster. Funny how the mind and the heart combine to jump right over the 70 years since last I saw Christmas arrive there, shoving 3 husbands and all the subsequent children and grandchildren aside like so much detritus. Is it those beloved figures from childhood who are ranked first in adoration, or is it merely that they appeared first in the line of those loved? Does the aging mind yearn to be a child again?
I tend to believe memory banks return most often to our roots; to a time when we were well protected and without responsibility. Well, okay, I did have to dust the parlor, and, in season, hose down the front porch. But not a speck of need to see to the happiness & well being of another person. Deeply as I loved my home there, and indelibly as I cherish that family circle, the Love of My Life is who I would want to spend an eternity with, and we had lovely Christmases together. Yet there it goes: the yearning ache to be able to recreate, even if just for a moment, that place in that time and wish them a Merry Christmas and babble to them of this huge love raring to come out from my persona and mark them indelibly as my own.

Steph · « **Reply #1764 on:** December 21, 2014, 08:47:06 AM »

MaryPage, you just answered a question of mine.. I yearn now to return to my youth..To be with my parents and cousin, grandpa and brother in our bungalow.. Like you, I had a wonderful marriage, have two wonderful sons, daughter in laws and grandchildren, but when I dream, it is of being a teen back in Delaware. Surrounded by friends in a tiny little town, where everyone knew exactly who I was and who my parents were. Memories are funny that way.

MaryPage · « **Reply #1765 on:** December 21, 2014, 09:40:40 AM »

Yes! Yes! Stephens City was like that back in the day. Population 438, as I recall.

I am very upset this morning after reading a piece on something that was brand new news to me! Urgh!

Did you know that MILLIONS OF GIRLS around this world have NO birth certificate? That they are never registered at birth, being of no significance? Over 230 million, at least, is the claim. In many, many, many countries. Without a birth certificate, you are not a true member of society. You cannot attend school, get a job, have access to health care and any social services that might otherwise be available. OMG!

No, I never knew that. How insidious! Urgh!

A bill has been introduced in our congress, but, knowing them, it may well never be passed:
https://www.congress.gov/bill/113th-congress/house-bill/3398

Steph · « **Reply #1766 on:** December 22, 2014, 08:41:35 AM »

I honestly thought or think that if you are born in a hospital, there is not wanting or not wanting. The birth certificate is the law.. Are these home births?? or not in the US

MaryPage · « **Reply #1767 on:** December 23, 2014, 11:15:42 AM »

I think it actually happens here in the U.S., Steph, but is very rare. However, laws or no, it is quite prevalent in third world countries all around this planet. The result is virtual slaves of females. Illiterate, without any encouragement to develop talents or trades, considered worthless, not legally in existence. Where there are laws, countries must be shaken up to enforce those laws. And where no attention has been paid to the problem, laws must be passed with the requirement that measures be ALSO put into law that will force compliance.

Steph · « **Reply #1768 on:** December 26, 2014, 01:38:16 PM »

I know that some of the cults here did not encourage birth certificates until they found out they needed them to get welfare money.

BarbStAubrey · « **Reply #1769 on:** December 31, 2014, 11:50:08 PM »

Steph · « **Reply #1770 on:** January 01, 2015, 09:27:32 AM »

Oh Barb, I do love it..

mabel1015j · « **Reply #1771 on:** January 01, 2015, 10:34:40 AM »

maryz · « **Reply #1772 on:** January 01, 2015, 10:45:03 AM »

Fabulous!

Steph · « **Reply #1773 on:** January 02, 2015, 08:34:50 AM »

I do want to say that SeniorLearn brings me joy and makes me think and gives me so many many friends, that I have never met. I feel lucky to have found Senior Net all those years ago and have kept it up through Senior Learn.. We really should think of a meet up again this year. We seem to have stopped doing it.

maryz · « **Reply #1774 on:** January 02, 2015, 01:46:18 PM »

It's certainly been our pleasure to meet you, Steph, and others we've met in person from SeniorLearn and Seniors & Friends.

Steph · « **Reply #1775 on:** January 03, 2015, 09:08:30 AM »

MaryZ, I loved meeting you and your husband. We had a truly wonderful day.. Some of the widows at Country Meadows went up to Nantahala in September and had a lovely festive lunch on the open porch. Our waiter was a hoot..

MaryPage · « **Reply #1776 on:** January 03, 2015, 10:39:01 AM »

I started with SeniorNet in 1999, and have enjoyed a number of Bashes. In the years following, a great many of my dearest cybernet and bash friends have died; too many, actually. Those first circles are full of holes, but I remember the smiling faces with great joy. Even had a mini, mini bash here in Annapolis one fine day years ago.
Now I do not travel. At all. I stick right here in town with very small jaunts, and go over the bay to one daughter's home to do some bookkeeping. I get driven everywhere now.
Those airports are just too strenuous a job of work for this old body. Do you know, I can remember driving to the airport, waltzing in and buying my ticket, walking out the back door and across a bit of tarmac to climb a few steps into the waiting plane? I swear. Eastern Airlines. Eddie Rickenbacker. Stewards all in white: no stewardesses yet. A lovely, happy adventure.
No oomph left in me. No energy for fuss and bother. Have to love you each and all from a distance. But DO get together, and then tell all about it so I may have vicarious Joy.

mabel1015j · « **Reply #1777 on:** January 03, 2015, 01:47:27 PM »

Ditto to MaryPage's comments of present day travel. I never was a big traveler and then i married a man who is not fond of sight-seeing, so our travels have all been on the east coast. I always wished i could just be picked up at home and then ZAP be put down someplace else. There are many things in the world i'd love to see, but don't enjoy getting there. So i love hearing about all your travels.

Jean

Steph · « **Reply #1778 on:** January 04, 2015, 09:47:17 AM »

Trains are still my favorite way of travel. I get a compartment and love every moment of it, just wish they would let me take my corgi with me.

mabel1015j · « **Reply #1779 on:** January 04, 2015, 12:44:09 PM »

One more reason to stay away from new chemicals.............bring back the vinegar bottle!

http://www.smithsonianmag.com/science-nature/puberty-beginning-earlier-girls-so-what-can-parents-do-180953738/?utm_source=smithsoniantopic&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=20150104&spMailingID=21921377&spUserID=NzQwNDUzNjY5NzES1&spJobID=480229148&spReportId=NDgwMjI5MTQ4S0

And, i don't know if they will repeat it, but there was an excellent interview with Gena Davis on Aljazeera America. She has an institute that documents how many girls/women are portrayed in the media, particularly children's media, as well as how sexualized they are. Children's and G-rated movies have as much lack of clothing and sexualizing as R-rated movies! She suggests two simple rules to start to change the situation: before casting, make 50% of the names of characters female names (most of the time it doesn't make a difference in the story, but sets the casting director thinking in the right direction); write in the casting directions that 1/2 of the people in crowd scenes should be female (only 17% at the moment).

http://www.forbes.com/sites/meghancasserly/2012/12/06/geena-davis-and-google-gender-bias-in-media-girls-stem/

Jean

Steph · « **Reply #1780 on:** January 05, 2015, 09:00:40 AM »

MaryPage · « **Reply #1781 on:** January 06, 2015, 09:00:16 PM »

Steph, trains are MY favorite means of travel, as well! Adore them.

Steph · « **Reply #1782 on:** January 07, 2015, 09:33:22 AM »

I love trains, have been all over the world in them and truly love the feeling of isolation and yet people when you want them..

mabel1015j · « **Reply #1783 on:** January 07, 2015, 01:29:00 PM »

From an Erma Bombeck column of the 1990s.............actually Mr P is very competent at 3 of the 4........i'll let u guess which one is verboten.....

He also detrimmed the tree one year, but when i went to trim the tree the next year, the lights were on the BOTTOM of the boxes and i had to remove all the other stuff to get to them! Never again.

Next to the presidency, detrimming a tree has to be the loneliest job in the world. It has fallen to women for centuries and is considered a skill only they can do, like replacing the roll on the toilet tissue spindle, painting baseboards, holding a wet washcloth for a child who is throwing up or taking out a splinter with a needle

Jean

CallieOK · « **Reply #1784 on:** January 07, 2015, 02:03:34 PM »

I'm reminded of Frances Weaver's comment in her book "Girls With The Grandmother Faces." Writing about her long and happy marriage, she said, "...although there were days when the best I could say about him was 'He married well'".

BarbStAubrey · « **Reply #1785 on:** January 07, 2015, 02:47:48 PM »

I've been using more and more vinegar - the dishes are lovely when I throw in a toss from a bottle of vinegar - if you do not use it washing dishes please try - just lovely - then I am using a combo of Borax, Washing Soda and vinegar to wash my clothes unless really really soiled then I add a couple of tablespoons of detergent - a box of detergent lasts me over a year now.

Of course we always used vinegar poured over baking soda then hot hot water with crumpled up pieces of aluminum foil to soak and then scrub with the aluminum foil the silver for holiday meals. Does a great job without all the cost of store bought polishes.

And I cannot sing loud enough the praises of cocoanut oil - in the cold weather it is hard and white like most creams - I hated the crepe paper look that was my face and arms - well slathering on the cocoanut oil several times a day and before bed in 4 weeks last year ALL the crepe paper look was gone from my face - yes, a few wrinkles but even the wrinkle between my eyes was gone - and it took about 5 months for my forearm to have similar results - did not try for my whole arm just the part that is typically not covered with a blouse or shirt.

After I learned the cocoanut oil was an antiseptic when I have a stuffed up nose, coming down with either an allergy attack or worse, using qui tips I pack it up into my nose and voila - in less than 10 minutes all the infection etc. comes and then with a couple of blows I can breathe, feeling great.

Crazy as it seems I polished, so there is no residue, the keys on the piano - wonderful - no slipping or sliding but with some protection, gleaming white with no yellowing and the keys feel better when I play - I am cleaning with it and using it where ever I would normally use an antiseptic cream - there is only one furniture polish that I think does a better job and that is The Natchez Solution - for awhile now, I pick up vinegar by the gallon and the cheapest cooking cocoanut oil available - it is all the same - there is no special anything to warrant paying extra in the beauty section or to pay extra because it reads organic - it is all from cocoanuts grown on trees.

Steph · « **Reply #1786 on:** January 09, 2015, 08:38:27 AM »

Cannot imagine stuffing anything up my nose, but you have interested me, so I have it on my shopping list.

BarbStAubrey · « **Reply #1787 on:** January 09, 2015, 02:11:49 PM »

Steph if the nose infection has only started I can put the cocoanut cream on my middle or index finger and go up high into my nostril and actually feel a sore spot that I put more cream on - I know this sounds so medical but anything to not have to take even over the counter meds which send my blood pressure higher and then there is that to deal with since the Blood Pressure med affects my lungs and on and on it goes.

Another trick - this past summer when the cocoanut oil was in its oil state - the jar I keep near my bathroom sink and use on my face each morning and night since that first bout the year before of using it all day long - anyhow I had a bottle of liquid vit E and added it to the cocoanut oil so that when it hardened in the colder temp is is mixed together as one - not sure if I notice any difference but so mach skin info says Vit E and C - well I do know that Vit C dissipates quickly in the air so there was no sense in attempting to add it and adding the scrapings from the skin of an orange or lemon affects the scent but again, the Vit C is gone in minutes.

I think the thing that I like most, other than it works is that there is no greasy after - while visiting my daughter's she arranged for us to both get a message and I brought the cocoanut oil asking the gal to use it - no awful sweet smell and no stained clothes from the oil they typically use plus, I knew the antiseptic nature of the cocoanut oil/cream, it is winter so it is cream, made me feel less vulnerable to anything I may have picked up flying - so often I come down with something being cooped up on a plane and I finally learned to bring antiseptic wipes with me for the plane arm, back and top of tray and of course when using the WC. It was one thing coming down with something when I was even in my early 70s but now, the chain reaction to drugs, I want to do everything I can so as not to have to take any.

Steph · « **Reply #1788 on:** January 10, 2015, 09:06:28 AM »

I am interested because this last summer, when I came down with what was possibly an allergy, nothing I tried worked and I felt horrid for almost two months, so I am now willing to try alternative things.. My blood pressure stays under good control with my combination of drugs, but it took years before it did.

BarbStAubrey · « **Reply #1789 on:** January 16, 2015, 05:21:25 PM »

Interesting the Oscar nominees were announced and already the media is a buzz with the lack of female directors included and movies either written by or directed by a female - this so called recent 'war' on women sure is becoming pervasive isn't it.

Steph · « **Reply #1790 on:** January 17, 2015, 09:16:53 AM »

Maybe what the women directors did was not quite what they wanted. After all it is voting by the academy that determines this.

MaryPage · « **Reply #1791 on:** January 18, 2015, 10:28:55 AM »

I really think in cases like awards, whether or not women or people of color are included or excluded in any given year depends for the most part upon individual tastes regarding what is before them to pick and choose from, AND, don't forget, WHAT has been created and offered up. While I may well not personally agree with some of the Academy's or the Hollywood Foreign Press Association's or any other entity's choices as to excellence, and Oh Boy, do I NOT!, and while there is no doubt politicking galore going on in restaurants and hotel suites, and who knows where else, I can't find it necessary to detect a bias against women or people of color in this area. My beef is the lack of taste: the ghastly language full of four letter words and insulting words for the female sex and the functions thereof, rude manners towards all others, gross violence, ugly nudity and panting sex. And the worst of it may well be that they are putting these things in HISTORICAL movies now! You know, and I know, full well that this was NOT the norm back in the thirties and forties and fifties. No matter what they claim, even the men, for crying out loud, did not use those manners and that language in the locker rooms of America! It was a much, much politer society, albeit also a much more prejudiced one. I am over the moon that this generation has deleted the prejudice, but appalled they have taken it for granted that we and our contemporaries used the F word in our THOUGHTS, let alone our language. Back in the day, I thought such speaking belonged only to the most uneducated, dirt poor, slum bred ranks of society, and I would have called you a flat out liar if you had told me that trashy talk would rise upwards through our many levels of civilization until our finest art forms are suffused with it! Yes, TASTE is my beef, and not, in this area, prejudice.

mabel1015j · « **Reply #1792 on:** January 18, 2015, 02:38:06 PM »

I agree MaryPage. Also take note that the only woman director who has won any of the big awards directed a shoot-em-up/war/spy movie. I think i saw that the "academy" is 90something % white and 70something % male. So, no non-action film is going to win and we seem to have more and more of those. I haven't seen any of those for decades!!!

So movies about women with chronic pain/depression (Jennifer Anniston), or a woman walking the Pacific Coastal Trail ( Wild, Reese Wetherspoon) or a movie about issues being discussed (Selma) aren't going to be nominated as great movies.

Jean

Steph · « **Reply #1793 on:** January 19, 2015, 09:00:55 AM »

Yes, the academy is all of movie making and that skews it male and white..

MaryPage · « **Reply #1794 on:** January 23, 2015, 09:50:14 AM »

I think the question of the day is going to be: Will it be Republican women who finally put a stop to Republican men trying to make it the law of the land that our government controls the uteruses of its female citizenry?

mogamom · « **Reply #1795 on:** January 23, 2015, 11:42:39 AM »

Hahaahaaa! Truth be know, the government now owns every aspect of everyone's health, eh? and make us pay for the privilege.

MaryPage · « **Reply #1796 on:** January 24, 2015, 09:03:39 AM »

How is that so? What you aver is not at all clear to me.

Steph · « **Reply #1797 on:** January 24, 2015, 01:33:53 PM »

If you are referring to Medicare, I for one am glad, but they really do not own my care, I own my care. I am always glad when they pay things, but if they don't and I and my doctor feel it is necessary, I pay for it.;

MaryPage · « **Reply #1798 on:** January 24, 2015, 02:28:04 PM »

Just exactly the way I feel, Steph. I am so GRATEFUL for Medicare and my federal employee plan supplementary. It is precisely true that I would be dead without them. But all decisions, from the very beginning one of deciding to have these or not have them, are mine. I do not feel any interference whatsoever from the government. And I also received a very strong education in civics when I was young, and I know that the government is all of us together; we make it what it is in holding us together as a society, and the worth or lack of worth of our government is ours to take a hand in.

BarbStAubrey · « **Reply #1799 on:** January 24, 2015, 03:11:31 PM »

I also feel no one owns my health or health care - I have chosen to use mostly alternative medicine - from herbs, to acupuncture and mostly, my choice of eating fresh foods that I prepare and very little meat so that I can afford and purchase only local grass fed beef and local chickens that are not being fed or injected with hormones. When I went for my eye surgery in November they were shocked that I had not used my medicare and here they had to charge the initial annual unpaid portion and it was November.

If we think of the mandate for insurance as an outside control that suggests that law makes me less of an owner than I guess I do not own my house or my vehicle or many of the things I have in this house including my mother's camera and my grandmother's silver and china, things that are covered for theft in these insurance policies.

My house still has a small mortgage so that insurance is mandated and my vehicle also carries a mandated insurance just as now our health requires a mandated insurance - no more un-insured getting free care at hospital emergency rooms which certainly frees up local taxes that is now subsidized by national taxes to offset the cost of this insurance for low income patients.

Just knowing there is security and calmness among those many families who were being denied insurance allows me to feel more secure, relieved it isn't the Ebenezer Scrooge values taking over the health care of those in our nation with serious illness like cancer. Insurance never was designed to help each individual payer but to plug the holes so the most needy stay afloat and we can all together help sail this ship of a nation. The idea of throwing folks overboard or of setting them off on their own in their small dingy's is not my idea of a strong US of A.

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Author Topic: Women's Issues (Read 392130 times)