Joan, there's a lot of description of clothing in the story. I agree with you that the grandmother is all about outward appearances up until the end of the story. As PatH pointed out, near the beginning of the story, the grandmother knew that because of the way she dressed, "In case of an accident, anyone seeing her dead on the highway would know at once that she was a lady." She doesn't go beyond the surface.
Joan, it seems that the idea of "good" changes in the story. Regarding the Misfit, I agree with you, salan, that the grandmother "is trying to convince herself and him that he is a good man." As her family is killed one by one, she becomes more desperate. She seems to be in shock, understandably. After she brings up Jesus raising the dead, the Misfit says:
"I wasn't there so I can't say He didn't," The Misfit said. "I wisht I had of been there," he said, hitting the ground with his fist. "It ain't right I wasn't there because if I had of been there I would of known. Listen lady," he said in a high voice, "if I had of been there I would of known and I wouldn't be like I am now." His voice seemed about to crack and
the grandmother's head cleared for an instant. She saw the man's face twisted close to her own as if he were going to cry and she murmured,
"Why you're one of my babies. You're one of my own children !"I think this must be the key point of the story.
I found some remarks that Flannery gave at a reading at Hollins College, Virginia in 1963. In introducing her "A Good Man Is Hard to Find," O'Connor touches upon the function of violence and the grotesque in her fiction, especially in relation to the characters of the Grandmother and the Misfit in the story at
http://www2.sunysuffolk.edu/lewiss/Oconnor.htmFlannery says about that point in the story:
"I often ask myself what makes a story work, and what makes it hold up as a story, and I have decided that it is probably some action, some gesture of a character that is unlike any other in the story, one which indicates where the real heart of the story lies. This would have to be an action or a gesture which was both totally right and totally unexpected; it would have to be one that was both in character and beyond character; it would have to suggest both the world and eternity. The action or gesture I'm talking about would have to be on the anagogical level, that is, the level which has to do with the Divine life and our participation in it. It would be a gesture that transcended any neat allegory that might have been intended or any pat moral categories a reader could make. It would be a gesture which somehow made contact with mystery.
There is a point in this story where such a gesture occurs. The Grandmother is at last alone, facing the Misfit.
Her head clears for an instant and she realizes. even in her limited way, that she is responsible for the man before her and joined to him by ties of kinship which have their roots deep in the mystery she has been merely prattling about so far. And at this point, she does the right thing, she makes the right gesture. "
After he shoots her the Misfit says:
"She would of been a good woman," The Misfit said, "if it had been somebody there to shoot her every minute of her life." Even though he jumped away from her when the grandmother said he was one of her own children (which Flannery says is to be taken on a spiritual level), the Misfit seems to recognize that she showed the capacity to be "good" at the moment before her death. She drops her superior attitude and perceives her and the Misfit’s common humanity (on a spiritual level, according to Flannery's faith and beliefs). The Misfit seems to be saying that if the grandmother could have lived her life at "gunpoint," she could have seen the world from a deeper, radical perspective.
So, to get back to your question, JoanP, about whether the Misfit is "good" at any point in the story, I don't know. He now seems to be able to recognize "good" in the grandmother's final words. Does that, coupled with his last words in the story, "It's no real pleasure in life" lead us to think he's going to change? We're told he's someone who, even as a little boy, was always thinking about things and wouldn't let them go.