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« Reply #19520 on: December 13, 2018, 10:43:25 PM »


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December 14: - Santa Lucia Feast day (Sankta Lucia in Swedish).  Do you serve for breakfast Lucia buns?
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Do I see a new name in the Library? craigpoff welcome - tell us a bit about yourself - glad you found us - we have another gentleman who posts from time to time, Jonathan who lives in Canada - looks like you live in the Carolina's - I bet you are part of the Latin Study group - looking forward to hearing a bit more from you - as you can read we have become a group of long distant friends and we hope you will join us.

Haven't made banana bread in years and years - someplace I still have my mom's recipe - in fact after clearing the recipe drawer one of my plans for next year is to pull out and use some of those old recipes that I have not used in all these years. Tomereader will you be using some of the banana bread as gifts or do you freeze some - at this point in life I am assuming it is only you and your husband who eats all the good food you prepare.

Frybabe I too had concerns over other's choosing fresh fruits and veggies - well I learned that they are anxious for our business and only choose the best for deliveries - so far that has been my experience - the only time I was disappointed was at first they showed grapes on the stem and then delivered a plastic container with loose grapes, that to me were the tail end of what was on display - called and I guess others called as well because that stopped and they deliver the plastic sack of grapes on the stem just as we would pick up at the store - If the come-on kick-back had not been offered by Amazon I doubt I would have tried having other's shop for me but that was a further reduction in my bill and they offered it several times plus if you agreed to delay a prime 2 day delivery for awhile they were allowing that $1 to go towards the NOW -

What I find so useful is during the hot weather anything cold is delivered inside a large insulated bag that is inside the paper sack - those silver outside quilted insulated bags are about 2 feet by 2 feet and the one side has a sticky extension like an envelope - I was using two of them in my windshield when I parked my vehicle - just like those insulated wind shields I could actually touch the steering wheel without grabbing a piece of paper or something to protect my hand from the burning heat - I do not know how folks with leather or plastic seats do it - and now during winter I am using them at the bottom of doors that not only cover the potential draft but the bottom foot and a half of the door itself that is cold is insulated. I put one at the bottom of the laundry room window where only I go into that room and can see it - these insulated bags are coming in quite handy to keep my house snug.

I remember about 25 years ago when heat pumps were all the rage as the newest thing since sliced bread - here the advantage was supposed to be to take any coolness out of the air and convert it to help the system during our high heat air exchanges - I think now, most systems have some kind of heat pump included in the system - seems to me the biggie was locating the compressor so that if it was to extract heat in winter it had to be located on the south west side of the house and if it was to help cool then it had to be located on the northeast or at least the east side of the house - here folks who really really insulate are experiencing more success than all the mechanical helps. Many are putting as much as 30 inches of insulation in their attics and blanketing their attic air ducts with these special insulation blankets as well as, changing out and  using vinyl or the fiberglass window frames rather than the aluminum - wood is too expensive and with our weather they swell and stick from May through October. The houses built in the last 30 years have each year increasingly more effective insulation in the walls. In fact these older houses like mine, many folks are remodeling going down to the studs, pulling off the sheet rock and putting in better insulation than the minimum 5" batten insulation.

Here we are talking about ways we and our families are keeping warm and the picture of tent after tent in these cities come to mind - this is when I wish I could be a part of buying and donating chunks of land for these tiny house enclaves supported by Loaves and Fishes. Our local Community One (a Loaves and Fishes operation) is opening businesses that these otherwise homeless folks are creating - they now have a repair garage - the community is tight and there is someone who believes in everyone's future choosing to live in the community - he is like the mayor and visits everyone everyday and you have to show yourself to be clean in 6 months time for permanent residence after having been assigned a temporary residence.  There is a minimal monthly fee - not sure if they are calling it rent or what - I think it is like $250 a month. I've been wanting to go over and have a tour offered on either Saturday or Wednesday - now I'm intrigued by this repair shop.

Wow Bellamarie the entire 6 book series - that will surely keep everyone busy all winter long - there are a few authors like that whose books just capture our attention - I'm remembering when we were all into Maeve Binchy and couldn't wait for her next volume - I remember it was like that for the kids gobbling up the Harry Potter volumes - I guess that was the pull for these old series we remember from our childhood - same characters in one situation after the other with each volumn - I just wonder how many volumes there are of Nancy Drew or the Bobbsey Twins

Ha Tomereader my mouth is watering for a slice of banana bread - my memory buds are fully awake - slathered in butter - oh oh oh...


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Re: The Library
« Reply #19521 on: December 14, 2018, 12:58:14 AM »
Frybabe, I totally understand.  This past year has hit my hubby and I pretty hard with unexpected break downs.  Just since Jan. 2018 I had a mixer and can opener stop working. Microwave went out. My hubby needed new hearing aides, which cost $4,000, his first pair only lasted three years. Our shed was leaning over after a wind storm, so we had to tear it down and replace it.  A new pump for the pool, and if these weren't enough we got back up sewage in our basement, causing us to have to replace our entire underground drain lines, hitting us with $17,000 worth of plumbing.  My hubby and I were just sick to our stomach as they dug up our front yard 8 ft deep and 3 ft wide from our house to the street.  They took a full week to finish this job, only to call them back because I had water on my kitchen floor, from my kitchen sink pipes leaking, which was NOT what they worked on.  Had to replace my kitchen sink and faucet, and another few hundred dollars worth of replacing pipes.  Then I lost a diamond out of my anniversary ring which is costing me a few hundred to replace.  This has been our worst year ever, financially, and losing loved ones.  I can't wait for the New Year to ring in. 

Tomereader, you have got me craving banana bread just reading yours is filling your home with that delicious aroma.

Welcome craigpoff!  A book about traveling with a dog, reminds me of the book we discussed that I did not follow through with, Three Men In A Boat by Jerome K. Jerome.  I have a small Shiztsu, and have never traveled with him. 

Barb, yes, the first six books, but now to get my hands on the other six since there are a total of thirteen, and I just purchased Shepherd's Abiding.  Oh well, it will take me a pretty long time to get through these seven, so I am not going to worry about it. 

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Re: The Library
« Reply #19522 on: December 14, 2018, 06:20:43 AM »
Welcome, Craigpoff. It is great to find a new voice with us this morning.

Bellamarie, you certainly had a lot to deal with this year. Here is hoping that the next year is a big improvement. My insurance company started offering, last year, coverage for external water and sewer pipes at less than I was paying the water company for just water line coverage. I still have to pay a deductible and anything above the coverage limit, which I think is $25K.

I discovered, just last night, that my SmartTV isn't working. I am hoping the remote just needs new batteries, but it does not portend well that the on/off button in the back is not working either. I just got that thing no more than two years ago. I need to get new batteries and check the power plug this afternoon.

I gave up on Red Rising already. The narrator is good (Irish accent and all) but I am just not in the mood for a class conflict/warfare type of book right now.

I added the Delphi Classics The Complete Works of Livy to my Ebook collection. I have (had?) somewhere, a volume of Livy but I can't find it now. Not only that, I realized that it only covered his first five books. This new volume has color photos as well as being both in English and Latin.

The only borrowed book I have to read at the moment is Neil Gaiman's Norse Mythology.  The borrow is not time limited, so I am finishing the SciFi I am reading now before delving into the Norse gods.



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Re: The Library
« Reply #19523 on: December 14, 2018, 10:07:54 AM »
Wow Bellamarie - you did have a year didn't you - and some major repairs at that - I bet the kitchen sink was a shock after all you had experienced with the sewer line - the day will come but at least I know my sewer line is at the edge of my property along that piece between the driveway and my neighbor's front lawn. Yes, let's hope that 2019 is a better year and we are going to experience some biblical 20 year plague.

Freybabe had a chance to download Norse Mythology free and took it but no where near taking time now to read it - I'm still plowing through national and international money systems and trade and whose who in the banking industry - at least the more I read the more sense I can make of some of the current political moves - however, it would be nice to get back into history - I'm thinking I should first read Neil Gaiman's book before I get into finally reading some of the Saga's on my shelf   
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Re: The Library
« Reply #19524 on: December 14, 2018, 10:17:49 AM »
Found this...

A Spinning Wheel Covered in Flowers

The Tudor ‘12 Days of Christmas’ was a period in which tools were downed and
work was forbidden between Christmas Eve (24 December) and Epiphany (6 January).
To keep women from their chores (unlike the menfolk, the home was their workplace after all),
it was customary to decorate the home’s spinning wheel with flowers.
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Re: The Library
« Reply #19525 on: December 14, 2018, 10:24:44 AM »

Boars’ Head

The centrepiece of the Christmas banquet from at least the Medieval period,
the presentation of the boar’s head is rooted in pre-Christian tradition but
came to signify Christ’s triumph over sin – the Wild Boar being a subject of fear to rural folk and
a more than worthy quarry for hunters.
Though supplanted by more fashionable fare in the royal court,
it was subject the ‘Boar’s Head Carol’ published in 1521:

    “The boar’s head in hand bring I
    Bedeck’d with bays and rosemary.
    And I pray you, my masters, be merry
    Quot estis in convivio [As many as are in the feast]”
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Re: The Library
« Reply #19526 on: December 14, 2018, 10:57:45 AM »
   
“Minced Pyes”

Rather than a sweet snack, the “minced pye” was served at the beginning of the meal.
Baked with prunes, raisins, dates, powdered beef, butter, egg yolk, flour, suet or marrow, and minced mutton and
seasoned with salt, pepper and saffron. A total of 13 ingredients represented Christ and his Apostles,
while the loaf-like shape echoed the crib of the infant Christ and was sometimes adorned with an image of the babe in pastry.
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« Reply #19527 on: December 14, 2018, 11:16:27 AM »
More about the minced meat pies...

"Pie crusts were known as coffins, and used as a vessel to cook delicate foods or house pre-boiled meat fillings. Pastry was little more than flour mixed with water to form a mouldable dough. It was designed to be discarded once the contents of the pie had been eaten, although perhaps the poor may have eaten the cast offs.

Pies were generally large as they needed to serve several people. However, smaller pies known as chewets (possibly so called because the pinched tops resembled small cabbages or chouettes) were also available.

Many medieval recipes combine sweet and savoury ingredients, and pies were no exception. Desserts as we know them didn’t really exist, so it was perfectly acceptable to use sweet ingredients in meat dishes.

Sweetness came courtesy of honey or dried fruits as sugar was not widely available. Along with spices such as saffron and ginger, dried fruits such as figs and dates were the preserve of the wealthy as they had to be imported into the country. Liberally using spices in your food was one way to show your peers just how much money you had...

...Due to the costly nature of the ingredients, spiced pies were not every day fare. They would have been served on important feast days such as Easter or Christmas (which were both preceded by lengthy fasts).

As the pies were often baked in a rectangular shape, people began to associate them with the manger Jesus had laid in. Soon dough effigies of the baby Jesus were placed on top of the pies to reinforce the religious connection.

It’s a myth that Christmas and mince pies were banned by Oliver Cromwell and reinstated at the Restoration, but some seventeenth century Puritans did frown on any such ‘idolatrous’ depictions of sacred figures. By end of the century mince pies were made round, with the baby entirely absent."


1591 Recipe for a Real Mince Pie

Ingredients for the filling:

    1 1/2lb (700g) lean mutton or beef
    4oz (100g) suet
    1/2 tsp ground cloves
    1 tsp ground mace
    1/2 tsp black pepper
    a pinch of saffron
    2oz (50g) raisins
    2oz (50g) currants
    2oz (50g) stoned prunes, chopped

For the pastry:

    1lb (450g) plain flour
    2tsps salt
    4oz (100g) lard
    1/4 pt (150ml) water
    4tbsp (60ml) milk

For the glaze:

    1tbsp (15ml) butter
    1tbsp (15ml) sugar
    1tbsp (15ml) rosewater
Method

Mince the meat, and mix in the suet, spices, pepper, saffron and the dried fruit.

To make the pastry, sift the flour and salt together into a large mixing bowl and make a well in the centre.
Heat the lard, water and milk until boiling and pour into the well.
Quickly beat the mixture together with a spoon to form a soft dough, and knead until smooth on a lightly floured board.

Cut off a quarter of the pastry, and keep covered until required to make the lid.
Mould the larger piece of pastry to form
the base and sides of the pie within an 8 inch (20cm) diameter, 2 inch (5cm) deep loose-bottomed tin.

Pack the meat into the pie and dampen the edges of the pie wall.
Roll out the remaining pastry to make a lid and firmly press into place.
Trim the edges, using surplus pastry for decoration, and cut a hole in the centre of the lid.

Bake in the centre of the oven at gas mark 7, 220C/425F for 15 minutes,
then reduce temperature to gas mark 4, 180C/350F for a further 1 1/4 hours.
Remove the sides of the tin, brush with the glaze and return to the oven for a further 15 minutes. Serve cold.

    This recipe was originally published in:
A Book of Cookrye Very necessary for all such as delight therin printed by Edward Allde, London 1591
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« Reply #19528 on: December 14, 2018, 11:30:26 AM »
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« Reply #19529 on: December 14, 2018, 11:33:21 AM »

Vindictive Ploughmen

On Plough Monday the ‘12 Days’ were officially over and peasants returned to their toil.
It was customary for the communal plough to be blessed and then dragged door-to-door by the men of the village
to collect funds for the parish. Those who refused to make a donation had the ground outside their door ploughed up.
The practice was banned under Edward VI.
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« Reply #19530 on: December 14, 2018, 11:34:06 AM »
shoot missed the heading -  cannot believe - I just mis-counted - Since my post is so long I will not put the entire heading on that first post supposed to be the heading post --- oh oh oh.
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« Reply #19531 on: December 14, 2018, 11:43:23 AM »


December Library
Our Library Cafe is open 24/7; the Welcome Mat is always out.
Do take a coffee break and spend some time with us.


Pull up your chair and tell us,
How You Celebrate the December Holidays
Note the "Suggested Topics" - We want to hear all about it.


And please, continue to share your library news in addition to these holiday topics.
Let's make the library a bustling place to be this month.

December 12-15: - Are you gifting someone a book?  What is your memory of a book received when you were a child?
                    What is your favorite book with a holiday theme?
December 14: - Santa Lucia Feast day (Sankta Lucia in Swedish).  Do you serve for breakfast Lucia buns?
                    What is your favorite holiday dessert?

December 16-19: - What movies or TV programs do you never miss as Christmas approaches?  Please, tell us why it is so special for you!

December 20-23: -  What is your favorite Holiday Carol or Hymn or Song?
December 21: The First Day of Winter - The Winter Solstice - Do you do feed the birds or other wildlife?

December 24-25: - Christmas Eve and Christmas Day - Will you be home or visiting friends or family this year? Will there be a special meal?

December 26-28: - Did you drive around to see the Christmas lights and decorations? What will be your best memory from this year's Holidays?
                    Did you receive a book? Have you stared to read it ?

December 29-31: - Are you making a reading list for next year? Are you planning to 'right' size your book collection this year?
                    Is there a book that has often been on your list but never read?

We are in for a great month and we want to hear from everyone!
Please share using our calendar of topics. We enjoy and are richer by reading each other's stories.
“A man should hear a little music, read a little poetry, and see a fine picture every day of his life, in order that worldly cares may not obliterate the sense of the beautiful which God has implanted in the human soul.” ~ Goethe

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« Reply #19532 on: December 14, 2018, 01:52:14 PM »
Barb, actually this was the first time (that I can remember) that I made Banana Bread.  It was a recipe my daughter got from a friend (see how things pass down and around).  It was for two loaves, but unfortunately, one loaf was all I needed. (Widowed back in May of this year) So no one to help me eat any baked goods.  If I were to freeze one loaf, I don't know when I'd get around to eating it.  I now put halves of things I fix into the freezer, but I noticed the other day, got several packages in the freezer which will have to be tended to: half a pot roast, half a pork loin, several containers of beef stew.  Gotta get in there and start culling and cooking!
Oh, yes the bread did smell wonderful, and I had a very large slice, still warm, slathered in butter.  My daughter told me to put a small (lol) scoop of vanilla ice cream on a slice while it was still warm...gee, I did that too!  My calorie limit for yesterday I think.  My favorite baked bread is cranberry loaf!  Haven't done that in a long time. But I have a recipe for Raw Apple Cake, which I usually bake in a loaf pan, and it is tres delicious, IMHO, better than banana. (it smells good too with the cinnamon aroma/apples).  This will be my first Christmas without the hubby (of nearly 57 years) and Thanksgiving was definitely not a winner either.  I hope all of you will enjoy the blessings of family near you for the Christmas Holidays!
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Re: The Library
« Reply #19533 on: December 14, 2018, 03:50:44 PM »
I love banana bread and buy it at the Farmers' Market...I slice it and then freeze one or more pieces individually, so I can just take out a piece or two when the hunger for it gets to me.  I'm the only one who eats it, and this works well.

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« Reply #19534 on: December 14, 2018, 03:52:28 PM »
Tomereader it is hard to be alone however, I've learned a few things from others - for years I visited my daughter with her two boys but three years ago that changed - the boys are in their late twenties and one moved to Seattle and the other is out of the country more than he is in - anyhow did a few things that did not work out and gradually I'm finding what is making the day - also, I always enjoyed the days leading up to Christmas far more than Christmas Day - hope you too find your rhythm -

Some ideas from others - one has a dog that she fixes her Christmas meal enjoying every minute while talking and sharing with her dog. Another gets the material as a gift to herself and starts a special project each Christmas - sometimes knitting, one time making a bookcase, one year learning Calligraphy - Many binge-watch a TV series and others Binge-read an author - some volunteer in all sorts of ways from feeding homeless to visiting shut-ins or hospitals - some bring home for a few days dogs whose families are out of town - some take long walks bringing with them a thermos of coffee - some write stories of their remembered Christmases.

One woman from England responded with this; "Order dinner, have fresh Christmas floral/evergreen arrangements delivered in advance/table top size lighted Christmas tree... watch your favorite Christmas movies, and if you have anyone in your extended circle in similar circumstances, invite over for a sherry and a small gift exchange. Another suggested, "get a list of homebound people from a church who will be alone and give them a call wishing them a Merry Christmas. There are so many people that would just love to chat with someone." 

The deal I figured out is not to compare to what I've experienced in the past as a measure - it's like embarking on a new adventure - back some years ago - I do not remember why I was not going to my daughter's but anyhow, a good friend invited me to join her at her daughter's down in Alvin - half way between Houston and Corpus - I just felt like a 5th wheel - trying to fit into their traditions and family chatter - nope, for me it was not enjoyable - I'd rather be alone - and getting together with a few friends is nice but a few days after Christmas since they all have their plans for Christmas Day.

I also thought two years ago it would be nice to attend Christmas Mass downtown at the oldest church in Austin - disaster- do not want to even discuss it - I love watching Midnight Mass from Rome on TV that starts at midnight and that I will continue. I'm also, this year planning to drive around Christmas early evening and see the lights in the neighborhood and maybe even downtown since I'm thinking it will not be crowded as before Christmas. I like the idea of fresh flowers and I like the idea of having a meal delivered however, Austin is still locked in the tradition that restaurants will be closed so we shall see - Indian or Asian food is not my idea of Christmas dinner, sorry... I'm thinking a project - not sure yet, what - but that for me sounds captivating.

Let us know what you are playing around with in your head to do - it will be fun actually to hear since many of us get to that point in life when we are alone and to hear what you try and how it goes will give us all ideas for how to spend a holiday after a life change - three years ago now is when the last of my long time friends died so it was new territory for me - tomereader do you have family and do they live nearby or even in Texas?

I just wish wish wish the sun would start showing itself - these overcast skies are really getting old - sun on Christmas Day would be so uplifting -
“A man should hear a little music, read a little poetry, and see a fine picture every day of his life, in order that worldly cares may not obliterate the sense of the beautiful which God has implanted in the human soul.” ~ Goethe

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« Reply #19535 on: December 14, 2018, 03:53:40 PM »
hmmm Jane that's an idea - never thought of Farmer's Market for sweets - actually it could be heated up at home and get the whole package hmmm
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« Reply #19536 on: December 14, 2018, 04:15:29 PM »
Yes, Barb, I have my oldest daughter, less than an hour's drive from here.  She was and IS so totally distraught from her Dad's passing, (I think she's in worse emotional shape than I am) she couldn't do Thanksgiving, which we would do at her house, or we 3 would go out to eat.  Hard time with this holiday stuff, she says.  We may be together for Christmas.

I will be reading a lot, probably binge-watching something on Netflix/Amazon, and tumbling through paperwork, both year-end and what's left of the spousal account changes.
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« Reply #19537 on: December 14, 2018, 06:00:09 PM »
Be good to yourself Tomereader - "it too will pass" your in my thoughts and prayers... and now your daughter also...
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« Reply #19538 on: December 14, 2018, 08:56:55 PM »
 Tomereader, I'm sorry for your loss.  As you say, holidays are hard, but one does craft a new reality, as you're doing.  Take care of yourself.

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« Reply #19539 on: December 14, 2018, 09:18:00 PM »
Frybabe, Gaiman's Norse mythology is on my want to read soon list.  The myths are somewhat familiar to me, and from what he says elsewhere he is serious about them, so I'm betting it's good.  Let us know what you think.

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« Reply #19540 on: December 15, 2018, 01:12:09 PM »
Tomereader, I am so sorry for the loss of your hubby back in May.  It's interesting how you say of your daughter, "I think she's in worse emotional shape than I am." My younger sister lost her hubby in June of this year, and her daughter also seems to be in worse emotional shape than she is.  Makes me wonder if age helps, or do parents seem to be able to cope with the emotion more so for the sake of their children?  But then, everyone is different when it comes to handling the loss of a loved one.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and all your family.

Barb, as always you offer so much wisdom, and great ideas.  I really enjoyed reading the different ways to try to get through the holidays alone, or while going through grief.  A new norm must evolve, yet finding your footing to that can seem a bit overwhelming I suppose.  I want to be there for my sister this first Christmas without her hubby, and I am praying she and her family will find their new norm.

I got together with two of my other sisters and their spouses yesterday for a Christmas dinner out.  Lo and behold my one sister gave me a Christmas book as a gift!  It is Christmas Bells by Jennifer Chiaverini (A New York bestselling author of Mrs. Lincoln's Dressmaker.)  I have never read this author, but my sister said I will love this book.  I was so very touched, because she took the time to choose a gift that she knew would be dear to my heart, because she knows how much I love reading.  We discussed how growing up we never had reading material in our home, and wondered why that was.  We got to talking and sharing so many childhood memories. 

Frybabe, mythology.... hmmm you must let us know how the book is.

PatH., will you be with family this Christmas?  I know you've been going back and forth for awhile now, and your sister Joan is not near.  I do miss her posts in here.  Please let her know I am thinking of her and wish her a very Merry Christmas, and to you and all your family as well.
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« Reply #19541 on: December 15, 2018, 05:13:20 PM »
Yes, Bellamarie, if nothing goes wrong I'll be going out to Portland, and while I'm there, daughter Cathy and I will fly down to Los Angeles to see JoanK and her family for a few days.  After that, JoanK's daughter and her three boys will come to Portland, so it'll be quite a circus, and I'll probably see everyone.

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« Reply #19542 on: December 15, 2018, 05:56:55 PM »
Have fun, PatH!  Merry Christmas@
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« Reply #19543 on: December 16, 2018, 06:52:41 AM »
I recently saw an interesting video about Icelandic writers. They said that one in ten of the population write books. They attribute this to a tradition of storytelling during the long winter months. Neil Gaiman also mentions this tradition among the Norse in his Norse Mythology. I am also learning that some of our everyday words come from the Norse, like some of the days of the week.

He also stated that the gods of the north were imported from Germany. This I need to research because I expected it to be the other way around, like the legend of Sigurd and Gudrun, which I read was the basis for the Germanic Ring of the Nibelungenlied. I found this page which gives a brief synopsis of the tale and the differences between the two tales. https://followsigurdlife.wordpress.com/ Scroll down to the bottom and then read up. Anyone who is up on their ancient European history may correct me if I am wrong, but I could swear I read, some years ago, that there were two early migrations of Norse peoples into Europe, but I never read anything about a Germanic migration north.

The whole thing about creation myths and how religion itself spread and evolved among the early people is worth looking into, I think. There are so many creation myths (as well as flood myths) that are very similar that I have to wonder what was the ultimate source of these beliefs, myths and legends. The Norse creation myth brings a new and more vivid meaning to "fire and ice" phrase I often see, including in book titles.

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« Reply #19544 on: December 16, 2018, 10:01:17 AM »
Frybabe I need to find all that again but there was a mix of Norsemen with the Saxons in what is now northern Germany before those two migrations of Norsemen that is written up, as they took their ships down rivers in Europe - even later in the 8th, 9th, and 10th century, Denmark was 'the' location for the leadership of Norway and Sweden. Denmark being on the continent - but the issue of Norsemen and Saxons came up when I was deep into the history of the Roman Catholic Church and learned there is a Saxon Bible and how because of that Bible, that was written including the traditions and lifestyles that the Saxons would understand, changed the birthplace of Jesus from a cave, which is usually depicted in the Nativity scenes in southern France and in Italy and typical of the land where Christ was born, to the stable that Saxon's understood.

Anyhow my own history includes issues with my eyes that are typical of an eye condition among Norwegians and Swedes although, our family only knows of both its northern and southern German roots which leads us as a family to mull over how Norsemen mixed with Saxons long before Saxons made it across the channel to northern England. Here we surmised since we have a small bit of Irish heritage that it could have been because of marriage between those Norsemen invading Ireland without ever considering the mix of Norsemen and Saxons. 

I remember reading something about those early Norse/Saxon mixings were not so much migrations as happening because of both war like skirmishes and ship wrecks and that those involved stayed, marrying or at least having children among the Saxons.

This is during the Time in Europe when there where the Goths and Visigoths and other unusual sounding groups and how each group either stayed put or migrated across Europe to settle in Spain and France - this was before the Birth of Christ when leaders of these groups were given all sorts of miraculous powers like being able to turn fields fallow for years to come or the opposite, make a field productive and make certain flowers bloom. These myths stayed with the family and therefore, the basis for sons and grandsons etc automatically maintaining their leadership role.

I will not have time before Christmas but I will see if I can find some of those books where I was reading all this...   
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« Reply #19545 on: December 16, 2018, 02:14:31 PM »
So excited to see this at the #1 spot of 2017

The best-selling fiction of the year:

1. Amor Towles, A Gentleman in Moscow...............  YEA!!!  I knew it belonged up there!
2. Colson Whitehead, Underground Railroad
3. Lisa Wingate, Before We Were Yours..................  I read this, was a very sad book.
4. John Grisham, Camino Island
5. Neil Gaiman, Norse Mythology........................... Frybabe here is your book.
6. John Grisham, The Whistler
7. Paula Hawkins, Into the Water
8. Nicholas Sparks, Two By Two
9. George Saunders, Lincoln in the Bardo
10. Jodi Picoult, Small Great Things........................... I refuse to read her books way too sad for me.

Here is the site it begins with 1917 best selling fiction, and takes you to 2017.

https://lithub.com/here-are-the-biggest-fiction-bestsellers-of-the-last-100-years/10/?single=true

1931 and 1932 #1. The Good Earth by Pearl S. Buck............... Our book club read.
1932 #3. Sons by Pearl S. Buck............................................ Our book club read.

Looks like Danielle Steele and John Grisham became the popular authors for quite a few years. 
I know I read every Danielle Steele book up through 2000. 
Then comes James Patterson and Nicholas Sparks.

In total I may have read about 20 books on this entire list.  Didn't really become an avid reader until 1970s.
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« Reply #19546 on: December 16, 2018, 02:40:51 PM »
Interesting Bellamarie - starting in the early 40s I wonder which came first the book or the movie - so many were movies - the 90s did not, in my opinion show much more than light fiction - I feel as though in just the past couple of years we are back to books with depth.

Had such a great visit with my son and daughter-in-law yesterday - I'm having a difficult time getting anything done today just with the glow - almost finished with everything I feel I must do so that I can relax and start just being...
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« Reply #19547 on: December 16, 2018, 04:13:26 PM »
I read 30 books from the list and have about 14 in my possession that I haven't read yet. There must be about 10 that I am reminded that I wanted to look for. Since I don't see a printable list, I've bookmarked the page. I have some Zane Greys in my Ereader, but the titles listed don't ring a bell. None of the books listed in the 90s were of interest to me, apparently. Thanks for the list Bellamarie.

I've been tempted to read I Claudius, but Derek Jacoby's portrayal in the TV production was so powerful, that I'd be afraid to spoil its effect, even after all these years.

Yes, thank you Bellamarie. I would love to see what you were reading about the early migrations, etc. and the spread of religious beliefs.

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« Reply #19548 on: December 17, 2018, 10:56:50 AM »
You are welcome!  I am thinking of trying to find a book from each year's section to read this year. I am sure my main library would be able to find the books, or the used online book sites.

Frybabe, that's wonderful you have read, and also have many of these books on the lists. I always felt a little shy to admit I was a Danielle Steele fan because some look at her as a chick/romance author, but now looking through this list, I see she was among the best selling for the years I was reading her.  After she lost her son, her writing has changed, she has taken on a bit more somber theme.  I read A Gift of Hope: Helping the Homeless, a few months back.  I was amazed at how she dealt with her loss of him. Excerpt:   In A Gift of Hope, she shows us how she transformed that pain into a campaign of service that enriched her life beyond what she could imagine. ...

Barb, Nothing more fun than to spend time with family.  I am a bit partied out, and I still have my granddaughter's concert, CCD class party, basketball game, my sister's house, Christmas Eve and New Year's Eve to get through. It's been non stop for me the past two weeks, and I'm ready to crash.  We had a fun get together with my hubby's side of the family last night, all our kids, nieces, nephews, great and great great.  Is this actually the proper way to acknowledge the three generations when speaking of them?  There was actually four generations including ourselves.  I'm not blessed to have any great grandchildren yet, but they have a lot of them.  So today, I am resting, and hoping to bake some Christmas cookies later on.

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« Reply #19549 on: December 17, 2018, 11:32:38 AM »
December 16-19: - What movies or TV programs do you never miss as Christmas approaches?  Please, tell us why it is so special for you!

Movie:  The Family Stone with Diane Keaton, Craig T. Nelson, Rachel McAdams, Sarah Jessica Parker, Luke Wilson, Dermont Mulroney, Brian J. White, Claire Dane, and Tyrone Giordano.

After my sister had lost her hubby in March of 2005, the following Christmas this movie came out.  We wanted to cheer her up, so we decided to go see this movie.  It is a comedy that makes you laugh out loud!  I love this movie and have watched it every Christmas since because it reminds me of MY family.  The two sons in the movie couldn't be any more perfect matches for my sons Jeremy and Michael, and Rachel McAdams playing the daughter could be a clone to my daughter Julie, including carrying her basket of dirty laundry home to wash.  I of course saw myself in Diane Keaton's role as the mother, and my hubby and Craig T. Nelson's father character was a dead ringer.  As soon as the movie opens with the snow and the house, the kids pulling up in the driveway it captivates me.  It's a feeling I can't explain because it is a feeling I suppose ONLY I can relate to.  This movie has all the humanistic elements of a real life family, going through their own trials and differences, yet still come together for the Christmas holiday.  It has a few sentimental moments and sad moments, but then doesn't every family. 

TV show:Miracle On 34th Street was my childhood all time favorite movie, it was my Mom's as well.  I remember the first few times watching this movie how I felt sorry for Natalie Wood's character little Susan Walker.  It seemed sad to me that her mother was so busy with her job commercializing the Christmas season, she didn't have time for her daughter, and did not want her to get caught up in a myth believing in Santa Claus.  This movie is truly magical. 

A few fun facts about Miracle on 34th Street:   http://mentalfloss.com/article/72465/10-heartwarming-facts-about-miracle-34th-street 
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« Reply #19550 on: December 17, 2018, 06:33:16 PM »
Oh my gosh, I am lost in that list of books. I have read a lot of them, will have to go back and count. But how fascinating! In the meantime, I just finished one of Janet Evanovich's books for a reader's challenge on another site, Eleven on Top. It went fast. Mind candy, but fun.

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« Reply #19551 on: December 18, 2018, 06:17:21 AM »
I am a Grinch fan, not the Carey version, the cartoon version.

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« Reply #19552 on: December 20, 2018, 12:06:33 PM »
What is your favorite Holiday Carol or Hymn or Song?

I have so many I don't know if I can choose a favorite one.  So in no particular order I am going to list five top favorites I love to hear:

1.  Silent Night.....we end our Christmas Eve Mass each year singing this.  Fitting for our King.
2.  Hark the Herald Angels Sing.... It wouldn't be Christmas without Angelic host proclaim, Christ the Lord in Bethlehem. 
3.  Joy To The World.... "This hymn is a "joyous" celebration of the sovereignty of God and the gift of Jesus."
4.  O Come All Ye Faithful.... I sang this in my high school Christmas Concert (in a public school in 1970) my how things have changed.  Every time I hear this song it takes me back to that stage in my small hometown, with my sweet Chorus teacher. 
5. Angels We Have Heard on High.... for me it's the great Gloria!
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« Reply #19553 on: December 20, 2018, 02:04:52 PM »
I like all of those, plus my favorite over the last 2 or 3 years is "Mary Did You Know?"  I cry every time I hear it.  So beautiful and meaningful!

"Hark How the Bells" (I'm sure that's not the actual title, but another favorite, choral or orchestral.
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« Reply #19554 on: December 20, 2018, 02:41:33 PM »
Little Drummer Boy
Oh Holy Night

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« Reply #19555 on: December 21, 2018, 10:30:12 AM »
December 21: The First Day of Winter - The Winter Solstice - Do you do feed the birds or other wildlife?

The first day of winter and yet it is in the forties and raining outside, seeming more like Spring.  I am sure snow is not far away.  Every year as we leave 5:30 Christmas Eve Mass there is usually snow falling.  I can only hope.

Yes, I do feed the birds throughout the year.  I am an avid bird watcher.  We attract some beautiful red cardinals and their mates, especially in the winter when there is snow.  We also have seen blue jays, woodpeckers, juncos, sparrows and cooper's hawks.  It seems we have seen more and more of these hawks than usual this year in our area, Ohio/Michigan line. 
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« Reply #19556 on: December 21, 2018, 11:47:12 AM »
Thanks for the book lists. That was fun to review. I’ve read about 75 of the books on the list, but I didn’t count the ones that I know I saw the movie and am not sure if I also read the book. 🤔

 It made me realize how many books I’ve read as recommendations from someone else, or for a class or book group. I had a college friend who I would now call a libertarian - I didn’t know that word at the time - he led me to Ayn Rand who I enjoyed reading just for the story, not for the idealogy. I had an English teacher colleague in my first job who led me to some really good reading like James Baldwin. The two of us team-taught a humanities course based on my world cultures class and she taught literature from the culture, much of which I had never heard of.  And in the last two decades I read some of the books for book clubs.

I read all the Mary Higgins Clark and Evanovich books on the list, there aren’t many of them. I also realize I did most of my “good” reading in the 50s and 60s and little during the 70s and 80s when we were raising our kids. Huuumm. In the 90s and 2000s I was doing mostly “fun” reading.

There are so many good Christmas songs, I guess Oh Holy Night and Lo How a Rose and Elvis’s Blue Christmas are at the top of my list. 

Packages coming every day.....I’m afraid some are going to be coming after Christmas which is ok, it makes the holiday last longer. One of the books for my grandson is not being published until Jan. The kids have a half day of school today, so the grandparents taxi will be busy. Enjoy your Christmas!

Jean

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« Reply #19557 on: December 21, 2018, 02:32:58 PM »
Nice to hear from you Jean.  Wow!  75 books is a lot of reading, good for you!  I never started reading until the 70's so I am catching up.  I have never read Evanovich, but I love Mary Higgins Clark.  I am on grandparent duty as well today, since the two youngest are off school, and their parents are working.  We made some mini pretzels dipped in chocolate and caramel then sprinkled them.  Sweet & salty, yum! 

All my packages have arrived and are wrapped, but I am afraid I could not resist one last handmade wall picture from this friend's independent company called Three Little Doves.  She and her husband work endless hours at their shop filling all the orders, and also sells her items at a small business shop called Baycreeek & Co.  They have three little girls (hence Three Little Doves) their youngest was diagnosed with Renoblastoma at the age of 3 yrs. old.  They have had some rough times these past few years, and sweet little Lily is at the present time cancer free, with her prosthetic eye.  They had items left over that did not sell, so she marked them down to try to get rid of as many possible.  I love the Merry Christmas & Happy New Year wall picture, and want to help them out one last time for Christmas.  They depend on this business for their family income.  So.... I may mail this to my daughter in Florida, and make her Christmas last a little longer!  You enjoy your Christmas as well! 
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« Reply #19558 on: December 21, 2018, 08:48:02 PM »
Sorry to have been AWOL - a bad few days - not only being scammed by an aggressive roofer and handling family issues - my sister is not aging well - she needs a community and now that her dog has died she is really alone - plus I've been in a bad way - anniversary of my son's death - that still brings pain since I could not be there - was in NC and driving clear across to the mountains of New Mexico, no matter how hard I kick myself was not really viable.  My youngest son still lived in Lubbock and he took care of everything.

I just need to share part of his last letter to me - I'm hoping it will be OK, all my friends have died in the last 3 and 4 years and y'all are closer than most and I think you may understand, Peter was a reader and had a group of folks that met at a coffee shop and discussed topics that prompted more reading - he also would write for grants for the local Pueblo to obtain funds to further their arts program.  Here is part of Peter's letter -

"But mass production requires mass consumption, and mass consumption requires mass thought, for if people remain unique and independent in mind and spirit, then mass production will fail.  It can succeed only when the masses have the same tastes and desires, the same wants and needs and beliefs.  It can succeed only when, in short, most everyone thinks alike.   

And what better way to do this than to order children from their homes and force them, under the guise of “education,” into indoctrination centers where they would systematically learn not to think for themselves and to become totally dependent upon others?  As Gatto says, “through the dependence of all on the few, an instrument of management and of elite association would be created far beyond anything every seen in the past.  This powerful promise was, however, fragilely balanced atop the need to homogenize the population and all its descendent generations.  A mass production society can neither be created nor sustained without a leveled population, one conditioned to mass habits, mass tastes, mass enthusiasms, predictable mass behaviors.  The will of both maker and purchaser had to give way to the predestined output of machinery with a one-track mind”. 
 
 “School,” said Horace Mann, one of the founders of the American forced schooling system, “is the cheapest police” and, according to Gatto, “it was a sentiment publicly spoken by every name . . . prominently involved in creating universal school systems”.  Forcing all children into schools helped to “stabilize the social order and train the ranks.”  Schools, he says, “build national wealth by tearing down personal sovereignty, morality, and family life”.  It teaches them the same myths about the nation, about its government’s leaders and its history. 

Modern schooling in America , says Gatto, provides “not intellectual development, not character development, but the inculcation of a new synthetic culture in children, one designed to condition its subjects to a continual adjusting of their lives by unseen authorities”.  They “train individuals to respond as a mass.  Boys and girls are drilled in being bored, frightened, envious, emotionally needy, generally incomplete.  A successful mass production economy requires such a clientele.  A small business, small farm economy . . . requires individual competence, thoughtfulness, compassion, and universal participation; our own requires a managed mass of leveled, spiritless, anxious, familyless, friendless, godless, and obedient people who believe the difference between ‘Cheers’ and ‘Seinfeld’ is a subject worth arguing about”.   

But schooling only provides half the answer.  After all, children can only attend school for so many hours in a day.  Thanks to modern technology, however, the rest of the time the television can tend them and help keep their minds straight.  After all, as Wes Moore said in his essay Television: Opiate of the Masses, television is “one of the most potent mind control devices ever produced.”   

But chances are that they’ll spend the majority of that time watching television.  Wes Moore claims the average American spends four hours watching television every day.  watching television acts exactly like a drug on the human body, producing endorphins, which are structurally identical to opium and its derivatives.  Also, as if that wasn’t bad enough, it also shuts down the questioning and critical left hemisphere of the brain, which controls our language and our logic, while emphasizing the accepting and non-critical right hemisphere."
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« Reply #19559 on: December 21, 2018, 10:18:12 PM »
Barb, I am so sorry you have been in a bit of a funk.  Always know we are here to listen to anything you choose to share.  I like to think after all the years we have been in this book club, we can call each other friends. It is very understandable to feel sad on, and around the anniversary of your son.  It sounds like if you could have been there you certainly would have, and your other son was there for him, which was a blessing.  I have come to tell myself lately, that if I am meant to be at a certain place and time, it will happen, and if I am not meant to be, it will not .  I've come to accept, as much as I may want something, it may not be meant for me.  I sat with my brother in law for days as he was dying, the day he took his last breath, I was in my car on the way to be with him.  I walked in the door and my sister said, "He is gone."  As much as I had hoped to be there when it happened, I told myself, it was not meant to be.  I hope these words can help you in some way.

Your Peter sounds like someone I would have really enjoyed knowing.  So much insight into the mind control schools have on our children.  More so in the past century than ever before.  And this, I whole hardheartedly agree with: 

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After all, as Wes Moore said in his essay Television: Opiate of the Masses, television is “one of the most potent mind control devices ever produced.”

Just to add to this theory in today's society, I believe the cell phones, ipads, tablets, and all other social media, and gaming app devices are also mind controlling to our young children, not to mention the dangers of predators, and child traffickers.  My thirteen year old grandson became so addicted to his cell phone, that when his mother grounded him from it, he turned around and either stole someone else's, or some how got them to give or sell him a stolen one. He became incredibly irresponsible, his grades were failing, he no longer had interest in sports, and he became very disrespectful to his parents.  They had him seeing a counselor to help with his behavior, and the counselor said he is literally addicted to his cell phone.  My daughter in law literally had a drawer full of cell phones she had taken from him.  Sadly, he is no longer allowed to live in their home because he is considered a danger to the other two small siblings, so he is in foster care.  TVs may have been considered the device years ago to ruin our children, but by far cell phones are now the ultimate device of their demise, and the colleges are controlling the minds of the new and upcoming graduates who are to become active in our society.  Today, socialism is "sweet" with the college kids. Bernie Sanders is like legalized weed, "rad", or what ever their word for "cool" is today.  I just shake my head and thank goodness I am a baby boomer.  When I heard my oldest granddaughter who is about to graduate with an early childhood education degree, tell my youngest granddaughter after taking her to the zoo, the gorillas they saw are how we evolved, I thought I would blow a gasket.  I remained calm, walked in my house and thought, I don't even think she realizes that theory conflicts with her religious beliefs, because sadly enough, I seriously don't think she understands what she is being taught in college, is contradictory, to what she was taught in her Catholic elementary, and high school. 

Any way..... like I said, I think I would have liked your son Peter, and I can certainly tell where he got his love for reading, and his intellectual thinking from.

I hope your sister finds her way, losing a pet is like losing a family member, especially when they were your only daily companion.  You take care of yourself, and I hope your spirits lift in the next day or so, with the celebrating of the birth of our Savior.   
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