GINNY, I haven't seen the study, but I would think it depends on what
you're doing while sitting. If you're reading, doing a crossword, trying
to follow the clues in a TV who-dun-it..your brain could hardly flatline!
However, it the book or the TV isn't holding my interest, I do find
I tend to doze off, now. That's a new development for me and a definite
sign of advancing age.
The large showy memorials and grave markers are not seen much anymore. I do remember reading with great amusement
a book about the messages left on tombstones. My favorite was one I can't recall exactly, but I can give you an idea. A couple buried side by side (I've made up the initials):
His tombstone reads, "H____ H____, genius, poet, artist, philosopher."
Then on the wife's tombstone you find, "A____ H____", longsuffering wife of H.... H...."
STEPH, I was moved by you loss of all memory of you last day with your
husband. Even if it was no more than another ordinary day, not being able
to recall it must leave a hurtful gap. Why not pick up as much as you can
from any friends, neighbors or family you might have seen that day. Make
yourself a 'piece' quilt of that day if you can.