Well I'm pleased to report something of a miracle and also it may be an eye opening tale.
This past week I was in the Apple store with a friend who was having an issue with her Ipad. You can make an appointment with one of their "geniuses," who will assist you with whatever issue you may be having. While we waited and I was browsing the Iphone 4 up came a young man (the store was virtually empty which was a shock, perhaps it was a fluke, have never been in there it wasn't overflowing) and here came one of their staff, a young man with a ball cap on and earring and inquired if he could help, conversation led to conversation and the issue I had with gmail and the long story.
OH? Says he, lighting up?
I can fix that. No you can't, many have tried. Yes he did.
Get this: armed with nothing but the email address, and nothing more, he managed to:
(1) skip the password
(2) skip the security question
(3) change the password,
Login to the account and display it!! On the Apple computer in the store. I was IN to the account online (the server) and I could read the 500 plus emails sent to it? And respond online.
He could NOT get it on the i phone AS a default email service, , but on the i phone I can get it on the gmail server on Safari. As to the gmail account on the i phone, he did try over and over, could not understand why it would not work, finally saying the geniuses can do it, if you make an appointment. But I can and could work it from the gmail server online and change the password, read the email, add a new email address, and make it now work and redirect to my new account.
He was a genius, himself, and he also fixed my friend's problem as we stood waiting.
So, what did we learn from this apart from my own stupidity of course? I learned how easy it is for somebody (I stood there and watched him and have my friend as witness) who really knows computers to get INTO an email account.
Which he DID do. People sending sensitive emails should consider they are not safe from somebody who really knows computers..
So I'm very grateful and now I understand why my bellsouth account was "compromised" as they said before they deleted it.
Amazing.