I got the Downey book yesterday from the library - it's very popular there - and i will have it for 2 weeks. I'm so glad to have gotten it because I am really enjoying it. I think it is very well written. I see on the cover leaf that KD has won awards for her business and economics reporting, and i think some of the award must be for how well she writes, not just for the technical aspects fo those issues. I find it so easy to read. I like her use of words and vocabularly and it draws me along to the next sentence, the next page, the next chapter. In other words, she makes the story quite interesting. It is not a chore to read about these events that could be very dry - and being a history major/teacher, i have read some very dry reports, particularly of presidential administrations.
I started at chapter 18, but i will go back and read the beginning. I think KD's next book should be about Mary Harriman - or, somebody should write about her. What an interesting character she is.
When you were talking about what the relationship was between Mary and Frances, i was thinking almost the exact thing that KD says about their relationship in this chapter. For women who grew up in the Victorian period, it is possible that words and actions, some of which would perhaps raise some eyebrows today, were much more intimate between some women of the time. It was not unusual for sisters to accompany sisters on their honeymoons. Hugging, kissing, statements of love and adoration, sleeping in the same bed was not uncommon among women, but did not necessarily mean they were in a sexual relationship. The flip side of that coin was that there were perhaps more "Boston marriages" going on than society thought there was, because it was common for women (and men) to live together, to share rooms and housing. It was also very common for rich women to pay for vacations, or trips for women less able to afford them. Mary Bethune went on more than one trip to Europe on Eleanor Roosevelt's dime.
Of course, as some of you have already said - it really doesn't matter what the realtonship was, the important thing is that much of what Mary was able to provide allowed Frances to do her very important work - like a "wife." As someone has already said, wouldn't we all like to have a "wife." ( That was a very famous essay in one of the early MS magazines - "I Want a Wife." ) And having the support of another woman may have been easier than dealing w/ the competition that might have reared its head if FP had had a male companion/partner - even husband.
I didn't know that MH had started the Junior League, or that the League was started as a supporter of the Settlement House Movement.
I loved the statement on pg 167 that "Mrs Rumsey has the ideas of a leader but she dallies with beauty, art and luxury on her way. If she did not have that softening, feminine spot in her makeup, she, too, might be a maker of history." That darn soft, feminine spot of dallying in beauty, art and luxury will get in the way every time..........lol
I see many similarities between Frances and Eleanor, altho i sense that FP may have had more confidence in herself than ER did. FP seems to have had more emotional support in her growing up years than poor ER who spent alot of time being told by a beautiful mother what an "old granny" she was and implying, if not out right saying, how unattractive ER was. And then, of course, ER's father was the rogue of the family, an alcoholic who on at least one occasion left ER outside a bar waiting for him and forgot she was there. Both of her parents died when she was young. Even tho she got good support and esteem from the head mistress of her school in Europe, ER always tho't of herself as too tall, too gawky, having too high-pitched a voice. Having a husband who had an affair w/ her secretary couldn't have been good for her self-esteem either. Amazingly, she seems to have come into her own in the White House and decided she was a worthy person. Her best years seem to have been after FDR died. Isn't it interesting that women have often done their best work when, or after, they no longer have children or husbands to take care of?
I'll catch up w/ the reading as quickly as i can......................jean