In the "holiday" discussion they were talking abt making lists,or not, which reminded me of a book some you might enjoy........this was my comment......
Do you all know that there are people who are list makers and love to cross off their accomplishments and people on the other end of the spectrum who love to keep their options open and not be restricted by a list or agenda? Of course, many of us do a little of both or are list makers at work but hang loose at home. The interesting thing is that the two opposites often marry each other and often drive each other crazy. List makers like to control their lives and " options people" are afraid they will miss some opportunity if they are too rigid w/ their lists. Of course when they are dating the list makers love the fluid, free-wheelingness of the option lovers and the o-lovers love that the list makers have got all the details covered.........THEN when married................!?! As i said, they drive each other crazy
unless they recognize that there is a benefit to each side and they can complement each other.(my DH and i are the list-maker and the options lover - me, and it's worked well most of the time and the other times he drives the whole family nuts checking to see if we've taken
care of this and that, like we are 5 yr olds. We've learned to say to ourselves, "he cares abt me and wants to be sure i know what i'm doing"! Occasionally i want to scream "i'm 69yrs old,
i've done this 20 times before, leave me alone!" But i just smile and say " yes, i know." LOL
That's from a theory called Myers/Briggs Temperment Profile or the Keirsey Temperment Profile. I used it in management and employee relations training. It was a fun instrument to talk abt bcs they would always be saying "oh, that's just like my spouse and i!" The Keirseys, hus/wife team, have a great book book titled Please Understand Me which is available in the libraries and bookstores, which talks about four aspects of personality like that one.
The other four categories are: how do you like to interact w/people - do you gain energy from interacting w/ others, if so you are an extravert; does being w/others drain you of energy? Then you are an introvert; how do you take in information? Thru your senses - you like to experience events to learn from them, or do you use your intuition saying " i think ............will happen, if we do ............." The third category is how do you use that info/make decisions w/ the info, are you a thinker- Objective, factual, like to use data? Or are you a "feeler" being
concerned abt how your decisions will effect the people, more subjective.
Knowing what preferences a person has in these four categories can make living and working with them easier, and knowing your own preferences helps you understand yourself and all preferences are O.K. and have benefits.
O.K. That's my lesson for the day.....hahaha, always the teacher/trainer, i just canned resist passing along information
........jean