Steph, one of my daughters is married to an Aspergers. He is extremely bright and high functioning, but still a freak when it comes to relating to people. We cherish him, but otherwise, I don't know what to tell you.
I have watched one grow up. A cousin of 3 of my daughters, on their father's side, has one who graduates from college this coming June. I have known him since birth. The experience of watching and participating in an Aspergers growing up is TOTALLY different from watching other children. They do, indeed, live in a world of their own, but rather desperately want to be "just like all the other kids."
This boy was put, at tremendous annual cost, in a private school for just such children. Some people think it best to mainstream these children, but I say no. In a learning atmosphere just for them, their special brilliancys can be encouraged, and the teachers know to let them go as far as they can. They befriend one another, as best they are able, and actually "feel" they have friends. By the time they go off to college, most "normal" college kids have formed some epathy and the actual Aspergers is better able to cope with the meanness.
It seems, sigh, that there lurks within the human being a visceral dislike of "other" kinds of people. There is a strong urge to rid the world of all disabled in any way, shape or form; and most especially those whose brains are wired differently.
Our boy had one meltdown in his 2nd semester, and the campus police actually put him in jail overnight! Wow, did the administration come down on them! Now they have to attend a course about autistics. Other than that, he has excelled in this well known liberal arts college, and we have high hopes for his future; probably in a lab finding cures for our diseases. Hmm. Also for the diseases of his tormentors!
You see, one of the blessings to the human species is this small percentage of Aspergers. They not only have huge IQs, but they can focus on problem solving like no one else!