But still, Juliet obviously does have a short fuse. And it's unbelievable she wouldn't have noticed he didn't care for books. But what Rob did would have definitely been a deal breaker for me, too. She had clearly divided up the space 50-50, yet he waited until she was gone and boxed up her things without even checking with her.
pg. 24 "In preparation for sharing my home with a husband, I made room for him so he wouldn't feel like a visiting aunt. I cleared out
half my dresser drawers,
half my closet, half my medicine chest, half my desk." One afternoon before our wedding, Rob was moving in the last of his clothes and belongings while I delivered my Izzy article to the Spector."......... "He said, Hello, darling. Don't mind the mess, the porter said he'd help me carry these down to the basement." He nodded toward
my bookshelves and said, "Don't they look wonderful?"
She made space everywhere for him
except the bookshelves. Did she NOT intend him to have any space on them? I don't see where it indicates,
he waited until she was gone, as to be calculating. His asking, "Don't they look wonderful?", clearly indicates he did not see where he had done anything wrong, on the contrary he was concerned she would be upset about the mess she came home to and reassured her he was going to have it cleaned up. It appears Juliet and Rob both, intended 100% ownership to the bookshelves, to hold what was near and dear to them, (Juliet, her books, and Rob, his personal achievements.) I would not see this as a reason to call off a wedding, if anything I would see this as an opportunity for the two of them to communicate with each other their desire for the space and agree to share half as she did all the other areas of the home. Keep in mind, Juliet repeatedly expressed what a
very nice man Rob was.
I guess you need to forgive me, I work with our Pre cana couples in our church to help prepare them to look at situations that will arise in their relationships once they are married, and to discuss them before the big day, so it will help prevent situations as Juliet and Rob's. We have them discuss the joining of bank accounts, credit cards, houses, etc. I guess book shelves never have come up.
I suppose for those who see the bookshelves as a deal breaker to call of the wedding, and those like me, who don't, we must at this point respectfully, agree to disagree.
I do still like Juliet, very much. I am just seeing other sides to her.