Jonathon, "I suspect second wives saved many marriages. There's an honesty about it that seems very refreshing. The immorality of extra-marital affairs is so tiresome."
As a happily married American woman for 41 yrs, with God as our center, I can't disagree with you more about, "second wives saving many marriages." All it probably has done is left one in the dark, or very hurt, if found out, and the other with a huge secret of adultery, or a lifetime of earning back the love and trust they have broken, if not divorced. Considering how China treats women, devalues them, and tortures them by binding their feet to be beautiful, uses them for slaves and prostitutes, it is hardly a culture/custom I can see a standard to follow where women are concerned. Obviously coming from a Male dominant point of view, concubines, mistresses, harlots, prostitutes or what ever label is used to provide a married man with more than one woman to satisfy his lust would be acceptable, especially in a culture like China who places little to no value on a female. Why would it matter how it would make a wife feel, knowing her husband prefers another woman/women to sleep with because of his lust. China or not, I can not accept this. Guess I believe in the sanctity of marriage, and the vows two people take when they make their promise in front of God to become one in union. Call me, tiresome and old fashion.
Jonathon, And then there is O-Lan. Her individuality comes through loud and clear. But the author felt she hadn't done her justice. Buck writes in her book My Several Years:,[/b]
'MY mind could not rest after I had finished The Good Earth and almost immediately I began to write another novel, The Mother, in which I portrayed he life of a Chinese peasant woman....'
About The Good Earth she wrote: "When it was finished I felt very doubtful indeed of its value...." And thereby hangs a Nobel Prize!!!
So, I was not alone in feeling this way about The Good Earth. I did not ever feel Pearl did O-lan justice throughout this story. I felt as though O-lan deserved so much more, and that is why I was so hard on Wang Lung. Not only was there "poor little" I kept feeling "Poor O-lan" I am like Dana, I will think The Good Earth will be my least favorite of the trilogy. It was very slow to get into and if I were not in the book club discussion group, I am not sure I would have continued reading this book, I know I would not have finished it in this time frame. I saw from the first chapters where this story was headed, stereotypical indeed, poor family, makes it rich and turns away from their morals, values and their Gods! But, I will say..... the knowledge of the Chinese culture, customs, rebellions, and conditions enlightened me, so with that being said, I can see why Pearl earned her Pulitzer Prize.
Thank you JoanP for an excellent discussion. YOU deserve an award for keeping us excited, engaging and enlightened with this story. As always with this group of great avid readers, I give you all kudos for a great discussion! Thank you for leaving the lights on.....
Ciao for now~