Barb - just yesterday the plumber called about installing a new shower. He is in his seventies but still working. He explained that we needed to buy a certain type of shower to fit the existing hole in the wall - then he said 'it's difficult to explain what I mean over the phone - especially to a woman'.
Needless to say, husband thought this was hilarious. Unfortunately tradesmen are like gold dust around here, so i will just have to bite my lip.
I was most definitely brought up not to 'make a fuss'. I am not sure how much of this was a gender thing and how much a class one. My mother certainly thought that you should show the utmost deference to anyone 'better' than you - that meant all teachers, bank managers, lawyers, doctors, anyone who lived in a better house than you, earned more money than you, had a better education, etc etc. However, I do recall her being outraged when women demanded equal pay for an equal job - her view being that 'men had a family to support, women were just doing work for pin money' - I don't know where that idea came from, as she had to work from the day my father died (I was eight at the time) and it certainly wasn't for 'pin money'. Oh well, we are all children of our time I suppose. I'm sure my daughters despair over some of my views!
Rosemary