I get the impression that Antigone is wanting to have an intimate connection with those in the afterlife - just as some today want a deeper connection with God - she sounds like she has a yearning and aching for a connection that for centuries many have devoted their lives to a monastery where a contemplative life is possible just to become closer to God.
At this time in history there was not among the Greeks the knowledge, much less belief in one God and so, the concept of eternity and that pull that aches in our heart that we call a pull towards God is understood and explained as those who are below, no longer with us as well as, the many gods.
I will bury him.
It seems fair to me to die doing it.
I will lie dear to him, with one dear to me,
a holy outlaw, since I must please those
below a longer time than people here,
for I shall lie there forever. You, though,
dishonor the gods' commands, if you wish.
Yes, I can see how she does not seem to have the same need for intimacy with Haemon or her sister or even her future - when she says she will
be the bride of Death it is as if she is a bride to eternity and she wants to be remembered as a Holy outlaw - How many saints in the annuls of church history were considered Holy outlaws - How many who questioned and rebelled against the political and governing aspect of the Roman Catholic Church, like Luther, are considered Holy outlaws.
Antigone has a view of herself as an independent individual. As the chorus says,
alone of mortals, you will go, the ruler of yourself. She will not be a slave to men or kings and she is capable of acting with devotion equal to any man as compared to her sister who very much spoke knowing her place in society therefore, her obedience to man-made law. As straudetwo reminds us
siblings can be totally different in their characteristics and predispositions.
Wow truer words were never spoken Pat
Nobody's motives are simple black and white in this play.
although I wonder if each character sees their motive as pure white and those in disagreement as black - leaving us the reader or those watching the play to see both sides of each position.
Could that be the confusion we notice of the Chorus - they are commenting on the black and white within each position and they are not coming down on the side of one versus the other. In one section they speak highly of Antigone being a ruler of herself and then they agree with Ismene that she is sacrificing her body because for a women Reverence is not tolerated.
Reverence is a mark of character,
but power, for a man who has it,
does not tolerate offenses against itself.
Your self-guiding anger destroyed you.